Communication and Relational Problems
Relating to others can represent one of the main sources of safety, acceptance, care, gratification, resilience, transformation and inspiration of our lives. However, this great potential when subject to problems and difficulties can also have devastating effects.
Relations develop in a particular context, in which two or more human beings bring along with them their emotions, past experiences, personal stories and their expectations.
Most problems that emerge in a relationship result from communication difficulties. Communication with other person, in a way that allow us to adequately express what we feel, think, want or need is an ability that can be learned, developed or improved.
Conscience of the particular ways in which we can be contributing to our relational problems, that frequently result in great suffer, is also a crucial step that helps us understand that part of the solution may also that depends on us…Psychotherapeutic work can help change the course of this painful story.
Psychotherapy can facilitate identification and acknowledge of our dysfunctional relating patterns and their consequences, regardless of the empathic listening and validation of our feelings and emotions in the diverse situations. With the help of the therapeutic relation, you can gain more flexibility and amplitude regarding what is happening in your relationship with others. In other words, you will be able to see further away than your emotional intensity or old beliefs allowed you to.
Within this same potential transforming relation (the therapeutic alliance), you will also be able to improve the abilities that will allow you to build and maintain healthier relationships. These abilities or skills are simple aspects, so many times neglected, like the ability to listen and understand what the other is trying to communicate, clarifying the message we are receiving, recognizing our own feelings and regulate their intensity, so that we can avoid impulsive behaviour, expressing in an assertive way what we feel, think or need.
When we are able to develop a communication style that respects both parts, and brings them closer in the meanings at stake…we are preparing a fertile ground to a more fulfilling and happy life.